Shameless (Spoiler Alert: Not the TV Show)

Shameless (Spoiler Alert: Not the TV Show)

Guys, I don’t even know where to begin with this one.  I’m not sure what happened to us as a society that people have become so. darn. shameless.  Yep-that’s a strong word, but it is absolutely fitting for what people have become.  Shameless and prideless (yes… it’s a word-Merriam-Webster says so… link provided for ease of fact-checking).  I’ll stop beating around the bush because at this point, with everyone being offended by EVERYTHING, I honestly don’t care who is offended by this post.


Here is a list of solicitations I have received in the past few years from people I haven’t spoken to or seen in years.  Sometimes longer than ten years.  Yes, TEN YEARS.

  • Jamberry Nails
  • Color Street Nails
  • Rodan + Fields
  • Lularoe (oh, goodness the buttery soft legging messages were relentless)
  • Premier Jewelry
  • Usborne Books
  • Mary Kay
  • Norwex
  • Young Living Oils (or insert miracle curing oil of choice here… there are a billion to choose from)
  • Lashboost (is that a “company” or a product from another pyramid scheme brand?  I don’t know… I’ve lost track…)
  • LipSense
  • Scentsy
  • Origami Owl
  • Advocare
  • Spark
  • Herbal Life
  • Amway
  • Pampered Chef
  • [Insert chosen brand here] toothpaste
  • [Insert chosen brand here] toothpaste
  • [Insert any “work from home startup business” here] (yes, I’m a mom, no, you shouldn’t assume I want to join your pyramid scheme for “extra income”… if you knew anything about me whatsoever you would know I work outside the home)

This is just a small sampling of only the direct messages I have received for solicitations to join a pyramid scheme.  This does NOT include requests for donations to organizations, childcare (although this doesn’t necessarily apply to me, stay-at-home moms can relate to this one), or various other “businesses”.  I can’t count how many times someone has contacted me that I haven’t spoken with in years starting off with “Your kids are adorable.  I’m starting a new business where you can work from home and earn some extra income and as a mom I’m sure you might be interested”.  Do you really think people don’t see your true intentions?  Do I have “gullible” written on my forehead (I checked… I don’t)?  I’m assuming the thought process goes something like this: “Oh!  She has kids.  She probably stays home.  She might need money.  She might jump on board if I pretend to be at all interested in her life.”

Does this sound harsh?  Absolutely.  Do I care?  No.  Why?  Because they obviously don’t care to waste my time by shamelessly soliciting their “business” because they think I’m a gullible person.  So, no.  I don’t care that this sounds harsh solely because they don’t care about me, my family, or my time.

You see, everyone has a different path in life-as they should.  No one is the same.  Not everyone goes to college, not everyone holds a full-time job, not everyone holds a part-time job.  Some people travel the world.  Some people get married, some people have kids, and some people do none of the above.  I am in no way shape or form hating on anyone’s side hustle.  A lot of people find products or companies they love and benefit greatly from promoting these products or companies on the side or as a full-time job.  If that works for you, that’s a pretty good gig, so keep it up!  Social media is a great place to share information-such as a business.  I’m all for it.  It’s effective, it reaches a large audience, and it’s easy and convenient.  Share away, people!  Honestly, I’ve found some of my favorite products from a Facebook ad or a post a friend made and I decided to check it out, but please, PLEASE stop direct messaging people PRETENDING to be interested in their life.  Frankly, it’s insulting when you act like YOU are doing ME a favor by pushing this product or company on me when I never even asked.  If you’re a true friend (or even a decent human being) you would not be contacting me out of the blue after having no contact with me for years.  This is not a business.  It’s harassment.

If someone truly believes in their company or product they won’t need to shamelessly solicit to everyone they have ever come in contact with throughout their life.  I have many friends who sell products for a company or are a brand ambassador who wholeheartedly believe in the products and company they promote.  They post to their social media regularly with real results they have experienced, don’t advertise gimmicks, and they only approach people who contact them with questions.  These are people I purchase products from.  People who are passionate about their product or company and not the money it COULD bring in.

Let’s be honest… is your side hustle going to make you rich?  No.  Just no.  Those that make money by promoting products or companies work very, very hard.  They don’t shamelessly send a message with little effort to everyone in their contacts list and hope a few people might be desperate enough to fork over their hard earned money.  If anyone is successful using this technique, the success won’t last.  This model isn’t sustainable and soon people will run the other way every time they are contacted.  Not to mention, mathematically a pyramid scheme is not sustainable.  Yep… had to throw some nerd at ya 😉


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